Be aware that you don’t want to be the time waster.
Be honest to yourself, do you really want to attract the best possible person or just someone that is half way there, because you are scared?
Be open and confident that it will happen, there are up to 5 soul mates each for all of us.
Take away all the time scales (within a year etc.)
If you find that you are afraid of being loved, start by loving yourself up. The more you love yourself, the more others will be able to love you.
At every opportunity, let the suns rays shine right into your heart, bringing light into the deepest darkest corners.
If you are afraid of being hurt or the pain of love, let go* of past experiences, trust life, the universe will only ever give you things that you can handle.
Reach out into the world, go to every social occasion, every dinner party, accept every suitable invitation, go out on your own, get friends to introduce you to people, join groups that interest you, widen your circles of friends.
Make yourself available, people often respond to very basic signals like the little efforts we can make to beautify ourselves in our own cultural way, example, lipstick or a neat appearance and a smile.
Prepare to be surprised as to who your partner could be, they could be heavily disguised as an ordinary person.
Listen to your heart, your head and your sexual urge, all three combined, not just one.
Take away all the conditions and expectations, so as to avoid disappointment. Never say never!
Primarily regard interesting characters, beauty is just a bonus!
People CLICK together, listen out for when it happens to you.
It is often a good idea to check and see who is behind you, as some peoples signals can be a bit hidden. Check out the quiet ones!
If you are afraid or shy of someone, dispel any fantasy by talking to them.
Go for people in your league or above. A man can make himself very attractive to a partner. A woman only needs to go for a partner that totally adores her.
Once a signal is recognised, the next step is to encourage that person, smile, pay them a compliment, give them some attention.
Take your time, savour every feverish moment, every risk, every manoeuvre.
Keep sex for later on, as you need a clear head to determine if this is actually the person for the job, the one you want to strip down to their bare essence and build back up again. It’s a long term project.
Be prepared to dive in the deep end, become intimate with each others lives, share histories.
A marriage is about being able to grow along side somebody.
The art of love is about play but no games please, be honest about your feelings, shy excited or bored.
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, its all good practice, a rejection is not a slight on a persons character.
Tidy up your life! Complete with all ex lovers, leave no doors left ajar.
Make preparations for their arrival, give yourself everything you need, so your partner can just add to your table.
Be found in good condition, work on your personality, health and spirit.
“To know love, is to be love”, simply share your love equally amongst all things including any possible partner.
Help the universe along by writing out a list of all the specific qualities you’d like your magical soul mate to possess, for example: sexy, humourus, fun, spontaneous, strong, stylish, interesting, spiritually advancing, loving, intelligent, considerate, knows him/herself, playful, creative, generous, addiction free, healthy, capable, vigourous. You may also like to make a list of all the qualities with which, you wish to possess: clarity, good posture, nice skin, face your fears, approachable. Make your lists, then burn them and forget all about it. Lists can be updated at any time, even after several years of being together.
Say a positive affirmation, such as, “my husband is a peaceful man”, or “my wife is just right for me”.
Be yourself and have fun at all times.
Let go of your wish to have a magical soul mate, you are perfect just as you are.
*To aid letting go, I find that if I love the situation, person or thing really feeling it completely, then say, “goodbye and thank you”, I will eventually move on.
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