Be aware that you don’t want to be the time waster.
Be honest to yourself, do you really want to attract the best possible person or just someone that is half way there, because you are scared?
Be open and confident that it will happen, there are up to 5 soul mates each for all of us.
Take away all the time scales (within a year etc.)
If you find that you are afraid of being loved, start by loving yourself up. The more you love yourself, the more others will be able to love you.
The following article is about sharing my route out of grief and going towards emotional liberation, it is written from my personal experience.
I think emotional expression is about our whole lives and experiencing fully whats really going on, when we stop regularly to take stock of it all. The abundance we hope for and the reality of our grief that can overwhelm our everyday life if we let it. Unresolved emotions can get in the way of us getting what we really need out of life, which is our joy of life, (more…)
Our emotional centre was explained to me like this, by a guy named Shiv. Imagine if you have a piece of string inside your body hanging from the top of your head to your feet. There are lots of things that can take us away from our centre or piece of string, be it drugs, alcohol or shocking experiences. We then need to find our way back to our piece of string, because that is where we truly belong. Alas sometimes we stray too far away from it and, “go off the rails”, as they say and can’t find our way back. (more…)
I think we could have emotional studies as a subject taught in school, along side combined science and sex education, in there with human biology maybe? What do you think? I suppressed my emotions really well for years, “thick skinned” they called me, “happy go lucky”, nothing seemed to effect or touch me and then one day I exploded, which hurt everyone around me. (more…)
If you feel suicidal or feel like killing someone else, I strongly suggest you get your thoughts out in the open, talk about them or write them down, so it’s not just a deep dark festering secret going round and round inside of you. Suicide is a very black and white way of looking at life, self mutilation too, they are very temporary ways of relieving or accessing the pain. There are a million colours between black and white and with each colour is actually another pathway to your destiny, you can always find another way if you look for it. (more…)
Hitting rock bottom and then sinking just that bit lower. We as people sometimes need to do this, in order to process change, pain is our measure of resistance to change. I think in order to really appreciate the good times we sometimes need to take ourselves to our absolute polar opposite limit and beyond. It takes courage to come out of our pit of despair and face the world again because really it’s a very selfish place to be and doesn’t help anyone, least of all ourselves, but shit happens and we find ourselves there once in a while, feeding the black hole that can never be filled, being an energy vampire even though we don’t mean to be. (more…)
So what happens if we decide not to fall into the pit of despair? What else could happen? Something will if you give it space. Lets just do something different, for a change then, shall we?
Be conscious of the next wave of emotion that takes you, own it as a special part of you. See it as a unique feeling, so why treat it the same as all the other feelings? Give it some space with no expectations, to be what it is gonna be. Be still, think only of the incident that has triggered the emotion, (more…)
When my life was unbearable, I went to see a homeopath who helped me open the can of worms, which up until then controlled my way of life. After which I became an emotional wreck as my hard exterior failed me, I had a tidal wave of grief to experience before me, it took years to get up to date with all the things I had buried but the new direction my life took left me more space to be my old self again, I started to like me, even to love myself for the first time. That is why I’m writing this, (more…)
I have my own method of letting go, especially if it is a person, as it always seems to be our nearest and dearest that bring up our most powerful emotions. I feel the love (if appropiate) for them, I take myself back to the feeling by thinking about it deeply and I say, “I love you, thank you and goodbye”, over and over to release them and me. It’s nice to feel free instead of needy or clingy and give others that freedom too. It also gives them more space if they do want to join with you again in a fresh way. If I find myself really hating someone, I imagine them in a shroud of love from me and I keep sending them love until the situation sorts itself out. That works, because the very act of loving someone you hate, shifts the energy.
I like to keep the toilet lid closed as part of my feng shui reasoning that I picked up from one of Karen Kingston’s book on the subject, she says “don’t let your wealth flow down the pan”, I say, “keep the fun in your space”. When you know happiness is a normal state, start to keep it that way. How long can you maintain happiness before creating a negative emotional outburst? Think about it. Taking it that, we are co creators of our universe. I am exercising my will for complete uninterrupted happiness, it remains with me now even when I cry, crying is a joy for me, releasing the feelings as they occur. I say what I feel as soon as I realise something is not sitting right with me. Maintaining my heaven on earth is my goal, keeping it fresh and positive, honouring my gifts and giving them. Stuff still hurts but I don’t associate my hurt with a sadness anymore, I just try to accept that everything is as it is meant to be.